Becoming a confident parent with our parenting support
Parenting and co-parenting is surrounded by myths. There are myths about what it takes to be a good mother or father, about how to ensure your child thrives, about what material things you need, and about how a good mother should think, feel and act so that her child is successful and happy.
As parents we have all been children ourselves and as such the good news is that we are already experts as to a child needs if we just follow our instinct….yes the child that you may be raising currently, but also the child inside of you that may also still need these things as he or she didn’t receive them in the first place! So as family relationships grow, develop and mature, we always need to be aware as parents, that somewhere in the background we may be need to parent our own inner child too.
As adults we recognise it is not helpful, and can be very destructive to avoid making decisions and to feel fear about the consequences if we did. If we rely on others rather than feeling we have autonomy over our own choices-feeling helpless. From birth, a child already needs to begin learning these skills-the early building blocks for the future.
What a child needs from parents and wider family
What a child needs, a child deserves…including the one inside of you!
A child needs a wide and integrated set of life skills and abilities that function together within the autonomous individual-independent and having the power to make your own decisions. But they first need to feel a safe territory from which to develop this. Primarily that means you, your partner if you have one and other members of their family, including siblings. This includes extended family members too.
Loving, nurturing relationships are important for child development
Children’s relationships shape the way they see the world and affect all areas of their development. When we co-parent this can be especially challenging as there can be underlying conflict or even resentment which hampers communication between the co-parents. However through relationships with parents, other family members and carers, children learn about their world, so it is vital to remain hyper vigilant as to how this may be affect the child. Our support and therapy sessions help you build a solid foundation in which to give your child the ability to thrive within a cohesive family and in co-parenting circumstances.
When you respond, you’re also making your child feel safe and secure, and building a strong relationship between the two of you. And when your child feels safe and attached to you, your child is more likely to have the confidence to explore their world. We help you take a closer look at parenting styles and family relationships.
Support for you in all aspects of your life
We recognise that becoming a parent changes all parts of your identity. It can be a challenging time to adjust to who you are as a parent, as a partner, in you career, in your friendships, in your wider family relationships. We can help you negotiate these challenges, working on you and your needs. We also provide services for relationship difficulties and couple counselling through our general hypnotherapy and psychotherapy practice at https://www.mustardtherapy.co.uk where we work with all aspects of restoring and maintaining emotional and mental health.
"When your child feels safe and attached to you, your child is more likely to have the confidence to explore their world."
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