Becoming a parent can be a trying time for any relationship. The time when you would benefit from supporting each other more, is often the time when you focus on looking after yourself when not looking after the baby! As a result of the frustrations, this can threaten to cause arguments and conflict of unprecedented levels.
At easibirthing in Salisbury, we offer support to clients to learn to adjust to their new roles without taking it out on each other.
Following these simple 'rules for rows' will help stop them escalating into something bigger.
Choose the time and place carefully
Both people outline their own needs
Listen carefully to each other’s needs
Stick to the real issue
Avoid dredging up the past, unless it is directly relevant
Be prepared to hear negative emotions
Try not to get defensive
Take time out if things are getting too heated
Respect the other person’s request for time out
No personal attacks or name-calling
Aim for win-win
Admit and take responsibility for mistakes
Work at forgiving
Create your own new ‘rules’ provided both of you are in agreement